Teen Gothic

i really want to meet other goths but all these hangout spots i search for are either closed or 21+.
i hate being gen z, where so many cultures like goth and scene (ESPECIALLY SCENE) arent nearly as thriving because of tiktok imo, along with other reasons.
i remember a minor on pinterest saying "i wanna be goth sm but honestly i dont really like the music, can yall tell me how to be goth without liking the music plzz" i replied with
"if you dont like goth music, maybe you should find music you DO like. being goth isnt a fad, its not like changing your hair so you can sit with the other cool kids who put up their hair a certain way.. all subcultures are about being yourself. goth is who i truly am inside, if you dont feel the same, you sould search for something that makes you feel like your true self!
.. i just got called a "gatekeeper" and "invalid"

and,, i think that experience is everything wrong today. everyone is so obesessed with labels and trend chasing. they see a group of cool looking people and base their lives around it, even if its not their true selves. this is also why i feel goth to kids has been dumbed down to "white women wearing $ 100 fancy black dress and $ 86 shoes = goth, anything else is emo or punk" 🙁
and scene has it worse, because of the whole "scenecore" nonsense which- this subreddit probably isnt the place for me to rant about that..
but ya. why does it feel so hard on goth gen z? what are your thoughts about goth culture (and by extent emo and scene culture) in todays social media?