Teen Gothic

i recently brought my partner to a underground goth club event and while there asked if he was comfortable because it wasn't his scene, his reply was that he is goth and that it is his scene. He listens to no goth music, does not dress goth, as well as knows no goth bands. he mostly exclusively listens to vaporwave and EDM/raver music, and he keeps saying that he is goth just for wearing black all the time. i tried to ask him if he knew any bands at all and he said that it didnt matter because being goth has nothing to do with fashion and music which i know that goth has a very big connection to music and fashion. i am a baby goth at the moment and was always told that you cant be goth without listening to the music/dressing the part has it changed now that you can be goth without dressing the part or listening to the music?