Teen Gothic

i recently brought my partner to a underground goth club event and while there asked if he was comfortable because it wasn't his scene, his reply was that he is goth and that it is his scene. He listens to no goth music, does not dress goth, as well as knows no goth bands. he mostly exclusively listens to vaporwave and EDM/raver music, and he keeps saying that he is goth just for wearing black all the time. i tried to ask him if he knew any bands at all and he said that it didnt matter because being goth has nothing to do with fashion and music which i know that goth has a very big connection to music and fashion. i am a baby goth at the moment and was always told that you cant be goth without listening to the music/dressing the part has it changed now that you can be goth without dressing the part or listening to the music?

I know this has been talked about over and over again but I love goth music and culture, I love the visual aspect, the people and just everything about it, it makes me feel at home. But: I don't dress goth, at all. I am into classic and victorian style (1900s-1950s) and often feel like people seem confused. Is there anyone else out there who is in the goth scene but doesn't dress like it at all? If yes, what are your experiences? I'd be curious 🙂

I know goth is a music genre and the subculture is primarily based around the music. I love goth music- I got into it 4 years ago and get so exciting discovering new and old bands. I’ve been to a few events and concerts and have felt so happy and at home every time.

However, I don’t dress in what people would consider “goth” most days. I’m not very good at makeup and though I want to learn I haven’t had time to really lately. And I do have a lot of band tees and some nice black dresses or fishnets but I mostly end up wearing a lot of plaid shirts and blue or black jeans. I wish I could connect with other people who dress goth but I can’t afford to change my whole wardrobe and I do like some other styles. Does anyone else feel like this at all?