Teen Gothic

So I like goth music, metal music, punk music I'm really big into diy and battle jackets and so on but when I say I want a partner thats goth and into the same things I like. people keep on saying I'm fetishizing alternative women but i don't know if this is actually fetishizing or not though. I hate people making it seem that I objectify women and that I'm misogynistic

EDIT: (This post is based off of me trying to get to know all the alternative looking people in my school which is not alot considering I live in a small town with a school of 500 students, most of them spreading rumors that I fetishize goth girls which I don't I just want somebody that shares my interests in things and has the same fashion sense, i want to do projects together like patch pants sewing and battle jackets etc.)