Teen Gothic

(I hope I used the right flair)

I'm rlly confused cuz I'm going through posts in this sub of ppl asking if specific bands are goth and I always see different answers in each thing? I'm very new to Gothic culture and music since I'm a baby bat, and I don't quite get what makes songs goth so I'm kinda relying on what people say on here but each post says a different thing! Some people say the cure isn't goth but I've always heard that they are. I'm not sure abt strawberry switchblade. I see some songs by the smiths in goth playlists sometimes but I've seen posts that say the only goth song they have is 'suffer little children'. I saw ppl say some malice mizer songs are goth as well. Overall I'm just confused on what music is actually considered Gothic??? I'd like to know what music would be acceptable/correct to put in a goth playlist as I'm trying to compile my own of songs I actually like. Also, any reccomendations for more female led bands or dreamy/upbeat goth would be awesome. Thanks for ur time <33