Teen Gothic

I went to see Sisters of Mercy last night and, while there, my friend (another goth) and I tried to make friends as we don't have a big scene where we live. Mind you, it wasn't like we were harrassing people during the show, we were making small talk at the bar before the show. The overwhelming experience we had was negative. Most people seemed genuinely upset that we spoke to them which is something my friend and I had never experienced. My friend asked someone about their hair color because it was similar to hers, and the goth she spoke to seemed annoyed. We gave up right before SoM came on and just kept to ourselves but it definitely left us feeling dejected.

Is this a normal experience in the goth community? We don't have any goth bars near us so this was really the only chance we had to meet other like minded people in the scene and I guess I'm just a bit sad with how it turned out.