Teen Gothic

By some teenager in her dad's car. Mom and I got tattoos today and went to get groceries after. Some dad driving by let their teenage daughter bark at us ( I feel like its me as I wear torn leggings, black and purple hair.

It was fun watching my mother put them in their place but she regrets doing it. Have you ever reacted back at any one harassing you over the way you look?

I (20m) am rather new to the goth community and I've seen many posts and comments on here which mention that some who dress dark / gothic are sometimes getting barked at.

Yesterday I've been on a date with a woman who has been goth far longer than me and as we both walked into a big train station, a few men / Boys barked at us or her.

I wanted to ask if you think that this was more likely directed at both of us or more at her because she's a woman? I can't really tell if this event was something like catcalling aimed towards her or just aggression against us both because of our style.

I am sorry if this question is a bit dumb but I've never experienced something like this in person and I don't want to make this about me if I potentially wasn't the victim at all.