Teen Gothic

I met someone at a party a few weeks ago and they told me about a goth even they were attending later that night. I was curious about it, but they left and I didn't get to find out more. Saw them again this weekend and got the details. The events are bi-weekly and themed, and every band or song used as themes are bands I know and love. I started listening to "goth" playlists and again, I know most of the music. I have seen Peter Murphy in concert at least 5 times; I am a huge fan of his solo work since his second album, and eventually came around to love Bauhaus too, and got to see them on their reunion tour in the late 90s. Also a huge Killing joke fan, along with just about everything on 4AD back in the day…

I know it's not ALL about the music, but I think it's safe to say it's MOSTLY about the music?!?

The problem is, I dress like a square. Tee shirts and jeans most of the time. I have a lot of black stuff but it's, again, square: slacks and polos for work, etc. I own several pairs of Doc Martens, mostly black. I feel like I could tip over the precipice if I knew what to do next. I want to go to the next goth event but I'm anxious about going with my dumb clothes.
I can't afford a massive wardrobe and my employer might have a negative reaction if I went all in at once (think Richmond on The I.T. Crowd), but what do you think could be a next step to explore this side of myself?

Thanks in advance.

How common is it for Goth fans to also like Metal?

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