Teen Gothic

Like, I know people when I was a kid who liked Vision Thing or All About Eve's eponymous LP because they were into metal or folk and it was close enough.

Not trying to impinge Rule #2.

So I'm newish to my local goth scene, and it's been an incredibly welcoming experience. Everyone that I've met has, for the most part, been very nice. But there has been one guy I've noticed that just…makes me extremely uncomfortable. He only talks to girls (that are very obviously annoyed by him) and interrupts people talking to girls to add them on Instagram and tells them he's "controversial". At first I thought maybe he was autistic, so I really did not want to judge right away. There was one night that he tried to follow me around after speaking a few words to me but I made it clear I wasn't interested.

I eventually found his Instagram from a comment he left on the DJ's page. He had his YouTube linked and oh my god, I almost wish I never clicked it out of curiosity. He is the definition of an incel. Posts saying "I am going to get my dark queen one way or another, she will be MINE". Literally screaming in one video that it's "eating him alive" that he hasn't gotten what he wants yet. He also follows ultra conservative pages, and one called "Black Guns Matter". That alone is concerning enough.

I worry that he is getting more and more desperate, and it just gives me that paranoid thought in my head every time I see him at the club – like does he have a gun on him? The bouncers at my clubs don't search anyone.

I've thought about reaching out to the DJ and informing them of the things I discovered and leaving it at that. I don't know what it takes to get someone banned from a club. But maybe someone else has had bad experiences with him, and the more people that say something about it, maybe he will get banned?

What would you do in this case? Am I overreacting? All thoughts are welcome.

Every time I find a cool online gothic store the clothes are super expensive not including shipping+ tax. I haven’t been able to find any goth clothing stores in my area (Tulsa) and it’s honestly hard to find alternative places in general here. If anyone had recommendations for physical or online stores I would really appreciate it!!

It feels like there should be or very easily has potential for something good there