Teen Gothic

I just recently saw SOM on tour with Blaqk Audio (specifically the show in Charlotte) and man.. have they always been like this? The show was really boring and tame compared to Blaqk Audio which kinda shocked me. Were my expectations too high? Did Blaqk Audio spoil me? SOM hardly acknowledged the crowd, I figured at least a few songs in they'd stop and be like "Thanks for coming out Charlotte! What did you guys think of Blaqk Audio??" or anything along those lines. Has Andrew Eldritch just gotten too old for this? Was this just an off day for the band? I left before the encore so maybe something more happened then, but regardless I left feeling a little dissapointed.

I will say I'm a little new to the goth scene, so maybe all shows are just like this and I'm used to seeing metallica tribute bands and the energy there lmao.

Additionally, is their mixing always that bad too? I could hardly hear him singing which sucked. Did anybody else feel this way?

So I'm newish to my local goth scene, and it's been an incredibly welcoming experience. Everyone that I've met has, for the most part, been very nice. But there has been one guy I've noticed that just…makes me extremely uncomfortable. He only talks to girls (that are very obviously annoyed by him) and interrupts people talking to girls to add them on Instagram and tells them he's "controversial". At first I thought maybe he was autistic, so I really did not want to judge right away. There was one night that he tried to follow me around after speaking a few words to me but I made it clear I wasn't interested.

I eventually found his Instagram from a comment he left on the DJ's page. He had his YouTube linked and oh my god, I almost wish I never clicked it out of curiosity. He is the definition of an incel. Posts saying "I am going to get my dark queen one way or another, she will be MINE". Literally screaming in one video that it's "eating him alive" that he hasn't gotten what he wants yet. He also follows ultra conservative pages, and one called "Black Guns Matter". That alone is concerning enough.

I worry that he is getting more and more desperate, and it just gives me that paranoid thought in my head every time I see him at the club – like does he have a gun on him? The bouncers at my clubs don't search anyone.

I've thought about reaching out to the DJ and informing them of the things I discovered and leaving it at that. I don't know what it takes to get someone banned from a club. But maybe someone else has had bad experiences with him, and the more people that say something about it, maybe he will get banned?

What would you do in this case? Am I overreacting? All thoughts are welcome.

Is there a song that always gets you excited when you hear it? Like, it comes on and you hear those first bars and you think "Fuck yeah, this is my jam!" It might be your favourite song or it might not, but it's always a little boost of energy when you hear it.

For me, it's Lucretia My Reflection. Every single time it comes on I gotta max that volume!

I first started listening to The Soft Moon in 2015 and I immediately was blown away by their sound. ‘Zeros’ was the first song I heard and I couldn’t get enough. Ever since then, I was hoping for the opportunity to catch them live and it wasn’t until November 2022 that I finally had the opportunity to see them. Hands down, one of the most energetic shows I’ve ever been to. Luis knew how to move a crowd. His music was incredible, I hope everyone takes the moment to listen to this band if they haven’t, we lost a great one today. 🥀

first post on reddit ever – so i thought i'd share one of my favorite underrated artists

every single song on the palest grey's debut album "always haunted" is excellent. killer debut – i think they're going places

https://thepalestgrey.bandcamp.com/album/always-haunted

just saw a post on a non-goth related subreddit that happened to feature a goth woman, and so many people in the comments were implying or outright saying that she's only dressing goth to be "unique" or to feel superior. and i wonder what are your thoughts on this mindset?

i personally just don't understand this train of thought at all. just because dark fashion came into the mainstream a couple years ago doesn't mean everyone who's goth is only doing it because they wanna stand out. the woman in the post wasn't even the trendy sort of goth! i legitimately love this subculture and it honestly makes me a bit mad.

of course there were also snarky comments about how she dresses that way to feel unique but dresses like every other goth 🙄 like yes, that's sort of an aspect of nearly any subculture, you guessed it! fashion is still a thing in subcultures and it doesn't discredit someone's gothness just because they dress similar to other goths.

one time i got a comment on one of my own selfies saying i should make sure i actually like being alternative instead of only liking it because it's different. still irritates me to this day tbh. why make such a hefty assumption about a stranger? i don't dress how i do just to stand out, i dress how i do because i love it! it makes me feel like myself and increases my confidence.

btw i'm not implying that goth is merely looks, this issue is just fashion-centric. anyway, rant over lmao