Teen Gothic

I (20m) am rather new to the goth community and I've seen many posts and comments on here which mention that some who dress dark / gothic are sometimes getting barked at.

Yesterday I've been on a date with a woman who has been goth far longer than me and as we both walked into a big train station, a few men / Boys barked at us or her.

I wanted to ask if you think that this was more likely directed at both of us or more at her because she's a woman? I can't really tell if this event was something like catcalling aimed towards her or just aggression against us both because of our style.

I am sorry if this question is a bit dumb but I've never experienced something like this in person and I don't want to make this about me if I potentially wasn't the victim at all.

I’m writing an article on this subject and wanted some voices from the goth community to weigh in on it.

Specifically from those who were there while it was happening.

Throwaway account. I'm fucking tired of how cruel and unhinged people can be. I hate the fact that people feel as though they can take advantage of me. Even strangers. One guy yelled at me and harassed me today for not giving him money. He proceeded to follow me out of the store and insult me. He called me a dumbass, (ironically) broke, insulted my hair, told me to stop wearing black, and a bunch of other bullshit. Just kept attacking me. The verbal abuse kept going as I left the store. He followed me out of the store I was at, and insulted the race of the cop I was talking to following this incident. Called someone else the f-slur. I felt unsafe. 3 days into the new year and this happens.

Another guy looked me up and down, and I can't forget the look on his face. I can deal with staring, but he had this look of disgust on his face.

I just feel like I can't catch a fucking break. People are fucking awful.

Edit: Yes, I was dressed in my gothic attire. In both instances when this happened, it is why I mentioned it. I believe that my appearance makes me a target for that bullshit. I guess I should expect it looking "different". But it's still such an awful feeling. I wanted to know if anyone else experienced that. And how you deal with it.

Second edit: Just wanted to say, thank you everyone for taking time out of your day to comment. It's been rough so thank you for showing me kindness and empathy. It means a lot.

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When I went to the county fair with two of my other alt friends, most of the people there were middle and early high school kids. At least a dozen times we had boys come up to us laughing and asking for our snap. They also did that thing where they compliment you then walk away laughing. I even had one group of boys (maybe around 15) run up to me, take a selfie next to me, then run away laughing. I feel like ten years down the line they’ll be lying in their beds thinking about how cringe they were.

Hello!

From what I've been told by my parents, who saw them live a few decades ago, or by my friends who saw them in the 2010s, the band is really awfull experience live on festivals. I've been told this by several unrelated parties, and I don't think anyone ever told me that they enjoyed them live.

Is that true? How have your experience with SotM live been? I has been unversally recommended to me that it's better to not see them live and keep my naivety, but they will play in a city across the country this year. But it's far and expensive, on an unrelated genre festival, so I'm not really sure whether it's worth it.

So, would you go?

So I know that a similar post was made a few years ago on Reddit but what were your school experiences as goths and what were some stupid things your school got mad about and or banned?