Teen Gothic

I went to see Sisters of Mercy last night and, while there, my friend (another goth) and I tried to make friends as we don't have a big scene where we live. Mind you, it wasn't like we were harrassing people during the show, we were making small talk at the bar before the show. The overwhelming experience we had was negative. Most people seemed genuinely upset that we spoke to them which is something my friend and I had never experienced. My friend asked someone about their hair color because it was similar to hers, and the goth she spoke to seemed annoyed. We gave up right before SoM came on and just kept to ourselves but it definitely left us feeling dejected.

Is this a normal experience in the goth community? We don't have any goth bars near us so this was really the only chance we had to meet other like minded people in the scene and I guess I'm just a bit sad with how it turned out.

What do I do if I have no goth friends? I used to hang around with an alternative group of kids at school, some were goth, but they told me I was too depressing and awkward all the time. I didn’t want to bother them so I left. Is there something I was doing wrong? What do I do now?

I live in High Point, North Carolina and I am searching for fellow goths I can be around since I lost my mom in a homicide. I have no family/friends left and I feel like my goth friends I gain would be my family.

We can also try to form a band, if you'll be down.

Also, if you have any discarded stuff that's goth you don't need, consider sending some my way since I'm just new into the scene.

I hope this doesn’t count as inflammatory, I just genuinely need advice. I have a small friend group that I’ve developed this year. We kind of connected because we all dress edgy. My issues started at the beginning of the year when one of said friends would constantly refer to the both of us as “big tiddy goth girls”. At first I thought she was a goth and just wasn’t icked out by that phrase like me. I gently asked her about her music taste and it is pretty much exclusively like house rave wave and rap. I have no problem with either of those genres, and I’ll enjoy a song or two from time to time, but it did bug me her using the label without knowing the history or meaning of it. Especially because you could just google “Goth” and it would tell you it was a music based subculture. She is my friend so I didn’t bring it up but it erred me. The rest of the group(except one girl who listens to goth music but doesn’t dress the part or consider it her scene) says similar things, about us being “bad goth bitches” and when they’ll dress up they’ll be like, “I look so goth right now”. We were at a bar and I outright said, “sometimes the way you use the word goth confuses me” after some other “goth baddy” comment, and they got very mad at me. They said that, “the normies are going to call us goth so that is what we are! It’s basically just an umbrella term for edgy” to which I said, “it’s a music based subculture. Someone in jeans and a polo listening to goth music, is more goth than someone dressed in a trad goth uniform who doesn’t listen to the music.” One of them said, “well I’m going to call myself goth”. That was the end of the conversation but it keeps bugging me. It’s not that I care about keeping them out of the subculture, the more the merrier because more goth music enjoyers means more albums, shows, and bands for our community. It’s just that I feel like just using goth to mean “edgy” waters down the actual meaning and misses the point of the subculture

Any goths near Philadelphia, PA? Baby bat here, would love to go to clubs, festivals, talk music, etc., but my current friends aren’t goth nor do they care to understand the subculture!

Hey all. I have just moved to Long Island, New York for school and I've been trying to look around to see if I could find any goth scenes to get into. And also I'm looking to make some goth friends, I'm currently the only goth at my University. I'm willing to travel into the city to find some venues if need be. I've always wanted to visit a goth club.