Teen Gothic

I’m 18+ but still under 21 so clubs are not an option. i’m just a college student in the area and I literally have never made any friends who have likes the same music or fashion as me. where do the cool ppl hang out omg. HELP. i’ve been to a few shows at rgrs in denton when they have like dark wave music but all the people are so old.

I’m a minor, and I consider myself a goth. I listen to a lot of 80s gothic and some modern stuff too. Since I’m under 18, I can’t go to a lot of goth events like bars and clubs. i’m quite shy but I would like to meet more goth friends. I live in Philadelphia. thanks! 🙂

For me, I don't have goth friends, but I have met some lovely people involved in the subculture 🙂 For example, I was at the record store buying a Sisters of Mercy, The Cult and The Cure albums (along with some metal albums) and a father with a Sisters of Mercy band shirt and his daughter complimented me on my choice of album. Which was Floodland, but First and Last and Always is my favourite.

Years ago, I tried making a friend on Amino and I met a German girl who was very into goth rock and darkwave, but industrial too. She was very cheerful and kind, but I didn't access my account any more for some reason. I still think about her to this day and wish I could've kept her username or something.

I knew a girl at high school who listened to goth rock and post-punk and knew quite a bit about the subculture, but you would never have guessed that by the way she portrayed and dressed herself! I had a blast talking about the subculture, history and music with her. We have both expressed that we want to spend more time with each other and that we want to be good friends. However, we are both expecting each other to make the first move, like two Hollywood cowboys waiting to draw at a gunfight.

Where did you meet other goths IRL?

I know that this question might be asked a lot, but just hear me out. I am 14f and I got interested in punk/goth music and fashion when I was 10. I don’t dress goth yet, but I will eventually.

My school situation is complicated and I struggle with bullying.. I basically don’t have any friends either, and my school is very small, there’s not any goths/punks there at all.

So what do I do if school’s not a option? I can’t go to clubs or bars because most of them are 18+ .

Advice would be appreciated 🙁

I'm not so daft as to bother people just trying to have a good time at the local goth club.

But as a middle millenial, dating sites just seem very unreliable. A lot of what I have found has been bots and people advertising business.

And the few times I've found real people, they're hesitant to move forward because the nail polish and eyeliner is weird to them, or they'd be embarrassed to bring someone home who does that.

So, what do you guys think? I'm happy to hear any ideas, opinions, or personal experiences, good, bad or funny.

I live in High Point, North Carolina and I am searching for fellow goths I can be around since I lost my mom in a homicide. I have no family/friends left and I feel like my goth friends I gain would be my family.

We can also try to form a band, if you'll be down.

Also, if you have any discarded stuff that's goth you don't need, consider sending some my way since I'm just new into the scene.

I know similar questions to this have been asked in the past but I read the replies and didn't really find what I was looking for. Whenever I (22) go to goth nights at the local club I always just dance with my friends and don’t really talk to anyone besides them. I want to meet more people though. I always heard people don’t like being talked to when dancing but I don’t know if that’s actually true or how else I’d really meet people at the club (besides maybe chat at the bar or something). If people don't mind being talked to on the dance floor, I don’t even know how I’d do it though without being awkward/intrusive. What do you all with more experience at clubs think?

I (23) have goth friends but we all met through ask.fm in early 2010s, and we are from different cities, so we basically only see each other at festivals and on travels. I really want to meet people from my city (Wrocław, Poland). I've tried to organise a meetup and many people seemed interested, but almost all of them dropped out and long story short, the thing won't happen. I attended The Cure themed event tonight, and was actually pretty dissapointed, because the club was almost empty, so I went home early. I go to live shows too, but people who stay after the concert ends are all 30+ and in friend groups, younger people just go home. I talk to some folks online, but they're either from different cities or countries, or really shy and kinda scared to meet up for coffee or something like that. Any ideas? Sadly there are no goth shops or goth clubs here.

I am a baby bat that would love to find a goth friend to do fun friend things and explore goth more. I know concerts are the most popular but where I'm from that mostly happens in the cities and some underground things that are probably hours away or are too underground for a baby bat to have enough connections to know about. The goth scene is pretty limited where I'm from and I was just wondering if there are any alternatives as to where to gain friendships other than concerts. Unless y'all can help me know how to look up underground goth concerts, I've tried myself to look in my area but facebook pages seem dead and nothing really seems to come up.