Teen Gothic

My boyfriend is gonna propose to me soon (relevant I promise) we've even picked out a ring together and we already know it will be a pretty small wedding, we don't have a lot of friends or even extended family who would really want to be there, so we have decided against a DJ, but I'll be honest it's also partly because I'd like to have a little more control over the music given that my tastes are what they are. So basically here it is, most if not all of the friends I'm inviting are also really into goth music, and it's also something I would want to include in the reception while everyone is dancing and having fun. Because when I personally think of dancing and letting loose, I think of goth.

But here's the thing, there will still be family members at the wedding, so essentially I'm looking for examples of goth music that won't seem partivularly abrasive or offensive to non goth adults in theyr 50s/60s. I'll be mixing them in with other music targeted more at some of our other guests so everyone will find something they'll like. I'll also take suggestions for "goth friendly but not necessarily goth" songs/ bands that some of my friends who'vebeen into goth a bit longer than I have would still likely enjoy, just to beef up the playlist a bit and have more options. It doesn't need to necessarily be anything a mainstream crowd of that age would LOVE, just something they wouldn't be too shocked to hear and wouldn't cause too much of a stir, thanks so much for the help. Bonus points for themes involving love/ romance.

I’m new here so I want to share a picture and say hi, but I also have a question:

How are we defining elder goths? Is it age? How long someone has been goth? And what is that golden elder goth number?

so, i don't use tiktok but a friend of mine who does asked me if the "clean goth girl aesthetic" is acceptable in the goth culture or not. i know we're accepting and teach baby bats about us but theres a lot of hate revolving around them specifically. i told my friend that the way to become a goth is by listening to the music and explained it to her, her response was "i think these girls only wear black but don't listen to ur music."

help me determine this because i can't tell of they actually r interested in goth culture or they’re just posing for a "viral tiktok trend"

I am so sick and BORED of my non goth friends not being interested or bailing on me for the goth events and clubs. I miss so many events and waste money on tickets all the time now. I’ve been ready to go to the necropolis rave for hours now because a couple of my friends led me on to think they’d come with me, just to get me off their back, but only to tell me ‘nevermind’ in the last minute – I obviously can’t go by myself in this dark because it’s not safe and literally all the goth events are at night.

If ur in or close enough to west London and u want to go to the goth nights then please just message me on Instagram @the_real_fucking_dracula

I’m 18+ but still under 21 so clubs are not an option. i’m just a college student in the area and I literally have never made any friends who have likes the same music or fashion as me. where do the cool ppl hang out omg. HELP. i’ve been to a few shows at rgrs in denton when they have like dark wave music but all the people are so old.

Is it just me or has there been a serious uptick in people trying to find “where the goths are” or more into focus the “where are the goth girls at?”. I have been into the “subculture” for a few years. Even wrote for the site Darkest Goth for a while. I know there’s always been a fetishization of goth women, but I feel like I see it more now and more blatantly.

So my question is, am I just dense and have been missing it for the last 20 years, or is it getting more prevalent? Also, how the fuck do people deal with it?

Thanks!

I preferably want percentages of the population per state/province/country. Are there significant places where goths gather perhaps?