Teen Gothic

To clarify, I’m not a goth. Maybe I could be a goth if I tried! But I haven’t tried at least not yet. Anyway, I am a trans woman and this community is the only community besides my own that is consistently wholesome and kind to me. More open arms than you count.

I gravitate towards you in public spaces because I’m like “Okay, safe people. Safe people. Thank God. Safe people.” And I won’t even know y’all and I haven’t been wrong yet.

Just gotta say, love you guys!

To be fair these are the only goth bands that I’ve listened to extensively, I’m sure if I knew of all that was out there my list would likely look very different.

So my mom(39) is fine with me being a bit alternative…..to an extent. She’s fine with me liking weird shit and my “weird black music” lol but we but headings on the way I style myself. She only wants me to do stereotypical like not grunge “grunge” (think 2020 baggy jeans and nirvana t-shirt) and I wanna dress the way I like which is definitely not that. I’ve been getting into trad goth makeup and I really like the way I look. For the longest time I’ve always felt I’ve looked too much younger than I am, but when im in goth make up I really like the way I look a lot. My mom considers it whiteface. Whenever she sees me in it she’ll immediately tell me to scrub it off. At one point I made it my instagram profile picture and she yelled at me to take it down immediately. She compared it to a white person posting a picture of them in a charcoal mask.….that’s fine ig but digress. She says I’ll get my scholarship to college taken away if people see me like that. (She then got mad when I changed it to a bat cause then people would think I’m weird and suck blood????) Is there literally any way to deal with this. It’s like taking to a brick wall. Should I just suck it up cause I move away in 2 weeks? She’s still probably call me screaming if I do post pictures in it while I’m in college. She’s controlling like that.

There’s a goth girl in my environmental science class and these few guys keep referring to her as an emo girl, I just cringe but ofc I’m not gonna speak on her behalf but it just mildly annoys me for no reason lol

The other day I started wondering about where there are still goth clubs, how old they are, how often they're open, etc. Do you have a goth club in your town or know about a goth club somewhere? Tell me about it!

For context : I consider myself a baby bat, because even tho I've been really interested in goth culture since quite a long time, I started listening to the music only recently. Btw if you have any bands similar to The Sisters of Mercy to suggest to me, feel free to do it.

I wanted to know what goth meant for people, and I fell upon these comments : https://imgur.com/N4YvZfA

I am very curious : what would you answer to these people ? I'm only 21 so I have no idea how goth scene was before. Did goth always meant "fan of goth music", or did it changed ?