Teen Gothic

Hello (m23) so i went to my very first goth event in Paris last saturday. I was pretty hyped up because i never went to a goth event besides concerts. At first when i saw the ad i was a bit hesitant because it was literally made with A.I. So u got my ticket along with my two friends but before that we went to a bar and one of my friends told us that they went before to this event and it was filled with far right dudes and creeps and i was shocked because i always had this idea of goth places being critically safe (mind you i never went to a goth bar since there are 0 in paris lol) and i told them "i know you're joking" and they replied with "you'll see". When we got there around midnight it was nearly empty and slowly people were coming in. My friend is pretty known in the community here so they talked with alot of people and one of them was this 60 yo creep. When my friend went to the bathroom they met this 60yo creep that by my friend's words literally picked them up from the ground and i don't really remember this correctly but i think he kissed their cheek, i don't really remember if he did or no but just the fact that HE picked THEM up is just disturbing mind you my friend is 21yo, the day after she showed me screenshots of this dude literally flirting with them and triple texting them. Also my friends were right, the place is filled with fascists, there was this tall guy whenever he danced people literally went away i am not kidding and on everything i love. I asked my other friend because i always take things with a grain of salt and she told me she sees him in her university sitting with other fascists and they participate in such activities. I would lie if i said i didn't have fun because i did, i made new friends they are so lovely, the music was sooo good and it warms my heart seeing people having fun overall. I know that as goths we don't claim these kind of people but it makes me sad. Would i do this again ? 30% chance yeah i went for the experience.

Hello friends! I saw that SoM is having a concert near me in October, and bought the “Floor – General Admission Standing” tickets on a whim. I’ve seen this sub making fun of SoM’s concerts, but I don’t mind a “crappy” performance. It’ll be nice to still see them before they retire.

I have never experienced the music scene. I’m in my mid 20s, and this is going to be my first concert. I don’t have friends to go with me or give me guidance, so I wanted to turn to this sub for help!

1. The location is at San Francisco The Masonic, what can I expect? Is it huge and easy to find?

2. What does “Floor – General Admission Standing” tickets entail outside of its name?

3. How can I better prepare myself? I’m probably going to be taking the Bay Area Transportation System so I don’t have to worry about parking

4. Do people dress up at SoM concerts?

5. Is going alone as a 25 year old female poc safe?

Many many thanks in advance!!

So I saw Twin Tribes, Harsh Symmetry, and Bootblacks at Brooklyn Made last night. All around good show, everyone sounded great. But then a handful of people in the crowd had to go and ruin things for everyone else there. These people started moshing during Heart & Feather of all songs and pushing/slamming into people who were not at all interested in moshing.

And then during Fantasmas, they do it again but even more aggressively. Someone in the front was slammed into and yelled at this guy to cut it out, it immediately escalated into a whole fistfight with a couple other people jumping him. I had to hold this guy's arm back and yell at him to stop until security intervened (and of course shove me out of the way despite obviously attempting to break up the fight). Props to Twin Tribes for keeping it professional and continuing to play but I can't help but feel bad for them with this stupid bullshit distracting the entire audience during their last song.

I get it, moshing is fun and I'll gladly jump into pits at metal and punk shows. But slamming into people who obviously just want to chill and dance is obnoxious af. This isn't like hardcore shows where that's expected and you're aware of the risks, moshing is just something you almost never see at goth concerts, especially since most of the music isn't really fitting for it.

What's really annoying, this isn't the first time this has happened. I've had to deal with people starting mosh pits at shows for She Past Away and Clan of Xymox just to name a couple. And I'm not one to gatekeep on the grounds of fashion, it's a music-based subculture after all. But 100% of the time, it's been people who aren't visibly goth/alternative or regulars at clubs who start this shit. It's just random hipsters showing up and distracting from the bands and actively bothering everyone there. And now assaulting people for no reason. So fucking stupid and annoying.

I'm going to a goth concert alone for the first time in a couple of weeks. I'm a little apprehensive. Any tips for what to expect and how to stay safe?

I've never actually been to a concert. I also listen mostly to their older albums. What kinda stuff would they play this year? Any help/advice is appreciated!

Hello, I'm wondering if anyone knows of any goth concerts happening on the east coast of the US this year? I have never attended a concert for enjoyment and I dont really know where to look to see if there's anything happening.

Hello, I want to find people as company for concerts, because I'd rather not go alone. I'm a fan of two bands that are going to play in my city (Pink turns Blue & Clan of Xymox) separately but I don't really have anyone to go with me. I'm in the gothic scene (definitely music-wise, my style is still in progress lol) but none of my friends are. We went to several concerts together but of other genres. (And they don't want to go with me):

Now I want to find people to go with me, but how do I do that? I know that the best connection you can make is DURING the concerts but since these two concerts are going to be my first gothic concerts I don't have any connections yet.

Thanks for any advice!