Teen Gothic

hello everyone, I'm a young person who isn't working yet because I'm still on my way of getting a degree, but one of my teachers (a subject in my country called basic military training) at school has problems with my long nails and punishes my squad's leader for my long nails. I've never thought about it much, but I was struck with the reality of having to restrict yourself from looks related decisions because your study/workplace doesn't allow it, for example in some workplaces you aren't allowed to have a tattoo, a piercing and so on. how do you deal with that? it's really overwhelming and frustrating to me that the joy of customizing my character is being/going to be taken away from me.

I’m 17 years old and in high school, needless to say the kids are mean about my style and the way I dress. I used to live with my dad who never let me dress the way I want to, but I live with my mom now and I can pretty much dress however I want. I really enjoy dressing in a way that represents me, but people tease me so much that I’ve thought about dressing “normal” just to make them stop. They do stuff like legitimately SCREAM at me in the hall then say “Ah! A ghost!” And they call me stuff like ghost girl or Count Dracula. I know it sounds stupid but over time it’s really worn me down, it started as annoying but now it’s feeling genuinely hurtful. I was just wondering if anyone else had ways to ignore bullies or make them stop.

I'm wondering how do you deal with people taking pictures of you without your consent? I was on the train today, listening to Bauhaus as one does, and (I think) a woman took a picture of me, and I'm wondering what I could/should have done. I guess it at least means I looked goth enough?😭 (Tagged it as Help, let me know if it's wrong 🙂 )

This might be a weird post but I just want to get people's insight on this and to get their opinions of American and Southern Gothic.

I live in Southeast Ohio, which is sadly mostly a place full of radically conservative assholes, but the town I go to college in (Athens) is very different and a great beautiful place. I know when people think of Ohio they think of cornfields, but in the Southeast, you are in the foothills of Appalachia. This was a big coal mining area back in the day and there are remnants of these times everywhere. We even have a huge abandoned gothic-style asylum right next to town. This is also a place where ghosts and legends like that are very prominent. There seems to be about at least one story associated with every old mine, farmhouse, train tunnel, cemetery…

I don't know but the area just feels like it was ripped out of a piece of American Gothic literature. There's this strange sort of creepy romanticism that comes with all the decaying buildings and stories of ghosts. However, this is about as far as the gothic themes go. There is a pretty good music scene in town (albeit not a very big one), but there certainly aren't any goth bands around here. There aren't many people in town who dress goth either. Although if I'm being honest, I don't really associate a lot of contemporary gothic music or dress styles with the feeling that Southeast Ohio evokes. Southern Gothic vibes feel more at home here (which makes sense I guess). I know that Southern Gothic typically is used to describe dark country music or murder folk. Those genres are great but also don't appeal to my post-punk attitude as much.

However, there is one other place I have heard Southern Gothic used occasionally and it is to describe post-punk and college rock bands that came out of Athens, GA (not to be confused with the Athens in Ohio where I go to school). Bands like REM, Pylon, The Connells… they have some interesting dark qualities in their earlier music that, while it is a far cry from gothic rock, still scratches that itch for me and I think fits nicely within the idea of American Gothic on a broader sense.

All of what I am laying out here kind of culminated in my own band when we recorded one of our recent singles. I took a lot of inspiration from the area I live in and from those Athens GA bands as well as some Bauhaus and Cure. And we did end up having some people dub it Southern Gothic. If anyone is interested in hearing it so they can see what I mean then just lmk.

I'm trying to compose a little zine that goes more into depth on Southeast Ohio and how I see it tied into American Gothic. I'd love to get all of your thoughts on this, does it make sense, or am I grasping at straws here?

I'm in a fairly conservative area of a South-Eastern European country and while alternative and goth people are not unknown, there are virtually no spaces for us, no goth clubs of any kind and if any exist they're on an entirely informal basis. On top of that i'm kind of androgynous and i get weird glares for my outfits and long hair anytime i walk out, including whispered comments. I feel severely disconnected as a result.

Watching people here post images of their goth club experiences, being able to dress up and have fun, listen to music and dance is heartbreaking for someone who is in the closet and has no real venue for this. Anyone else in a similar situation?

i few days ago i decided to finally dress up "gothic" and even put a bit of makeup on (which i pretty much never do) but i ended up getting laughed at by multiple people, harassed from a car twice and overall made fun of by strangers. i live in a city where so to say "gothic" people are pretty hard to find overall, so people here are obviously not used to that type of subculture.

i was just wondering how do you guys deal with this type of situations?

Really silly to vent about, but it’s just getting to me I guess . I don’t think my parents like me being goth and it’s getting to me. Just overheard them talking about me and what I wear and pretty much how they don’t like it. It just hurts that I can’t be this perfect daughter. I’m just really tired of it, but if I stand up for myself I’m the bad guy and I’m just tired of it. I feel like the black sheep of my family, I feel like I can’t be my authentic self if I’m being completely honest

I'm a baby bat. Yesterday I went to see the movie Spiderverse 2 (amazing) and like four separate groups of children started at me with "cut my life in to peices" and one even asked me for a "wrist check". I know they're just kids, and people are going to be dicks no matter what I do but how should one respond to this?

Maybe I'm overreacting, but this gets me really mad. If I think someone is going through a phase whatever it may be, I will not say a word because it's just rude.

I'm a 23 old woman and last saturday was at my older sister's birthday party (she is 35 and everyone there except me and my bf was about the same age) and she and some friends told me "When I/your sister/someone I know… was your age, we too dressed as you, but now we are open to new horizonts and like every musical genre too!!'', I mean, cool I guess?

People don't seem to understand I do not only listen to goth music, I like a lot of other genres too, I simply wear black because it's a colour that makes me feel comfortable. They speak as they were enlightened beings because they are not alt anymore, and this pisses me off.

I’m one of the very few goth people at my college, and live in a very conservative region. people coming up to me in public and asking if they can pray for me or pray over me has become almost a weekly occurrence. it drives me fucking insane. i usually politely decline, but have gotten to a point where i just go along with it because i don’t want to deal with them trying to convince me.
they see a goth person and assume i must be some poor tortured soul corrupted by satan and legions of demons, when in reality i’m just melodramatic, love joy division, and look good in black. any advice on how to deter or respond to christian’s?