Teen Gothic

Before i became involved in the alternative community, I shopped at brands like hot topic and amazon for clothes. Since joining the community, I realize the error in buying fast fashion, especially from such places. I don't want to throw away my old clothes, even if they are fast fashion, but they simply don't look good in an outfit. They have that cheap, sanitized tacky look that all "alt" brand clothes have. I've already used a few t-shirts for fabric in DIY projects, but I would like to keep wearing some because I don't own many clothes. Any ideas on how to make them look better?​

I've always used music as inspiration for my creative work and I've been working on a worldbuilding project for the first time with goth music as core part of the inspiration! I'm also going with a heavy colour theme and i've been wanting to find something, preferably an album with heavy red theming to draw from! I vaguely remember stumbling upon something like it, but i cannot remember which band it was or what the album's name was. Curious to see if you have anything that fits this kind of description! I'm always looking for new music so drop something even if it's not 100% on point!

feel like it's becoming more fashion than music. I've always had a problem with labels because everyone interprets goth in a different way, for example I never shared this hobby with my mother because I know how she will react so I keep it from me and her. Is there any sense in telling her this? No.

She won't understand what it is. When you describe a person as a goth, it automatically sounds weird to a lot of people.

And it's funny because it turned into something super dramatic. It's all about the music you listen to. So what is Goth actually? A person who likes gothic music? A person who dresses gothic? Because a lot of people like the style but they don't really know about the music and that's okay.

I feel that most people see it as a super weird and super alternative label that makes a person super weird just because they dress a certain way. For example: a few days ago I showed my aunt a shirt with a skull and she said "Until now when I saw people wearing such a shirt I thought they were super strange" as if I made her understand that it is not a big deal and it is not that strange.

I hate being told "you look goth" beyond the fact that I don't really look goth most of the time. I don't look goth I am goth because I listen to goth music.

It's hard to explain my point, and maybe it's just because of where I live, but it really annoys me.

I have this weird thing about my brain where listening to darkwave, coldwave, and etherealwave helps my brain focus. Its the most effective thing at regulating me emotionally, calming/relaxing me, helping me concentrate/focus, and soothing my bodys adrenaline response(ptsd symptoms). It clears up brain fog pretty effectively, too. Helps me process information as well/helps my memory.

I've never ever heard of gothic genres as helping someone that much(mentally, emotionally) just by their sound alone(compared to classical). It doesn't matter what the lyrics are, just the sound alone massively helps me emotionally and mentally. When I'm upset, hurting, anxious, scared, in fight or flight, nervous system dysregulated, just listening to the genre for about 20 min fixes everything. You'd think that listening to "depressing/melancholy" music would make things worse , but it does quite the opposite! I'd go so far as to say it's comforting.

All the things people say about how good classical music is for your brain is exactly all the things darkwave/coldwave/etherealwave does for me for some reason. Meanwhile classical doesn't do much to help me.

Is it because my brain really fucks with the music in particular or do you think there's a specific reason why it'd help so much?

Additionally, does anyone else have this too with a goth genre? Or is my brain just a special breed

So there's a club in my city that sometimes organises goth rock music nights (it's not exclusively a goth club). There's an event coming up soon that I'd like to go but I have no one to go with, I've been to lives and concerts alone and I don't mind that BUT is it weird and awkward to go to a club on your own? (I'm female btw). I want to go but I have a feeling I'll feel like a fish out of water being an introverted goth alone at a club…

Edit: Thanks everyone for your responses! 🖤 It's going to be a Maske Party as well because it's the time of the carnival where I'm from so that might make it easier to attend alone! And I guess having a beer or a glass of wine before attending might calm my anxiety… As for safety concerns, I've been to this club many times for concerts (both alone and with friends) and never had any issues, I just haven't tried clubbing alone and I guess everything new is scary at first 🦇

I honestly would love to buy one, and I've never been the type of guy to get intimidated by a piece of clothing until… I came across the leather trench coat. I love everything about how they look but I feel like it seems a bit hard to pull off if you don't rock it with confidence.

It'd be funny if I am being compared to Blade or Van Helsing or some shit like that but I honestly feel like people would make Columbine jokes. Does anyone feel like that or I am getting too paranoid? I'd love to hear your thoughts about trench coats. I'll probably still go ahead and buy one lol

Very weird experience there was a group of 4 people one of the girls wouldn't stop staring at me and laughing… I've never experienced this in a goth venue before yet she kept looking and trying to start something with me. Like why are people like this I'm not fighting a literal child…. Has anyone experienced negative occurrences with people like this ?

I was at The Mission and The Chameleons last night in Seattle and at one point confetti went off during a song. A piece settled into the hair of a girl in front of me. The man standing next to me who WAS NOT WITH THE GIRL started to reach over to pick the confetti out of her hair. I pushed his arm away because don’t fucking touch strangers like that. Yeah it’s a show and you’re going to be pressed together to an extent but there was just something so gross about it.