Teen Gothic

Bonus pics of my fancy hat and brooch. The brooch was made by u/foxyandpaper

i already listen to the music but now i want the clothing and makeup but she says it’s devilish and that i can’t dress like that until im out of her house and it’s annoying. what should i tell her to let me dress goth

Hey, y'all who are feeling insecure about loving music and not dressing up, cheer up my friend! Most people here love you and excepts you! I LOVE the music but I don't really feel like dresses stereotypical or anything. I love this because I can wear professional business type pink colored clothes and pull out shit like "Sex and Drugs and Jesus Christ" by Christian Death. I love being able to give people a bit of surprise! Am I strange for this? I don't really care.

Hi lol. This is just a random post but I find this to be kind of funny.

I love gothic things soo much. Literature, art, music fashion, architecture, are just a few things that I like. I love to paint gothic things. I painted a portrait of Siouxsie Sioux using water colors. And last year when I graduated middle school, my dad bought me tickets for him and I to go see The Cure. It was so much fun! For my birthday he also bought me their greatest hits album on vinyl. But something interesting is that I don’t really dress gothic. Occasionally, I will. But for the most part I don’t. I don’t think even some of my friends know that I listen to goth music 😂. I just find it funny

I've been thinking about this for a while, as "listening to the music" always seems to be the criteria when people ask if someone is goth. A lot of people who dress quite goth get called posers or something like it because they don't listen to any goth bands, but don't the clothes have at least some say in the matter?

My parents have never been one to limit the media I intake, so from a very young age goth music (and adjacent music types) have been what I’ve listened to. Through this I made a lot of friends who fit under the alternative umbrella. I specifically remember the first time I ever came into contact with gothic fashion and that was when I was 12 on quotev (yes I was young but hey it was the 2010’s). I was immersed into creepypasta and Invader Zim when I met my first elder goth. Thankfully this person understood the boundaries between a youngster and them and they simply explained gothic fashion with an emphasis on demonias(haha). I felt as though they passed the torch to me, and I was bound to wait till I was old enough to start dressing that way and fit into the goth scene. I clung to a lot of gothic media, whether it was movies or music, and dressed the way my mom wanted me to. I was labeled a “good girl”, and that was what I was. Mind you, they thought I was weird and voiced out that my love for halloween movies and the weird whiney music I listened to was “hopefully just a phase”.

But then college came, and I had my own money and little to no parental supervision. I bought black clothing, black makeup, and started to feel like my clothes weren’t disgusting me. I didn’t realize how much I hated the way I dressed before until I had control over my wardrobe. I felt normal, relaxed, and okay. My parents were shocked when I told them, expected, but the shock has never worn off. They say “all this time I talked badly about Harley Quinn, your actually wanted to be her? Im horrified” (I wear all black so ofc that equates to Harley Quinn… somehow). It’s been a year and a half now and the comments continue. “Oh Elvira stop taking my beautiful daughter from me”

“I have to mourn the life I saw for you”

“You’ll never gain respect like this. We spent so long trying to not be like your fathers side of the family and you are just like them.” (My fathers side is just lower income and not the healthiest. Nothing to do with black clothing)

At the moment I’m unable to move out as I am taking a gap year from college due to mental and physical health problems. I am saving up for my own car, but until I can get one my parents have to drive me to work. I respect what they do for me, but their comments are draining. I feel like a monster living with two self-proclaimed “angels”. I wish to regain my sense of self confidence, but is the only way to ungoth myself again until I can go back to school? I just don’t want to go back to being under their shoe and doing only what pleases them. I’m almost 23 for christ sake. What should I do?

Since I graduated highschool last year, I have had the hardest time finding the time to dress goth. It honestly makes so me depressed when I think about it too much. 😭 I just feel like I can’t be myself anymore. I have to wear scrubs and tennis shoes to school as I’m going into cosmetology. For work, I have to wear a shirt with my jobs logo on it and pants “but not jeans.” So, basically khakis.(I have gotten away with like cargo/utility pants before.) I live in a pretty small town, so there’s not much to do outside of work or school that I can dress up for. Definitely no cool goth clubs. 💔 Online everyone seems to focus on corporate goth, but I work a pretty outdoorsy job.

I have had a lot of people tell me “welcome to the real world” when I have expressed this, so I’m hoping maybe someone here will have some suggestions!

Edit: for context I’m a girl lol

When it comes to the dramatic makeup and clothing, how often do you put these on?

Is it more of a outfit for the club, or is it something you should try to wear almost 24/7?

I know some people try a more casual, less extreme appearance and wear throughout the week, or go full out during the weekend only, but is dress in our daily lives very important to the ethos or subculture of being goth?