Teen Gothic

I’m goth but have the most nordic looking, cozy home in the world and I am getting backlash for it for some reas reason?

Like to put it this way, I come from a very long line of religious alternative people, and while I do love the dark aesthetic of a very gothic, witchy home, I know that is not everyone’s cup of tea, so my house looks very much like IKEA’s wet dream, with subtle gothic decor. That way my MIL won’t get a heart attack when she comes visit.

But recently the alt community on TikTok is constantly barking at me for briefly doing a home tour, in which I showed my home, and for “ forcing tradwife values” ( I posted ONE video, in which I was baking chocolate brownies, also I am a neurosurgery resident, wtf??), and apparently that makes me less goth.

Anyways, what do y’all think about the tiktok alt community?

I want to introduce myself into this subculture but I would like to know what is more important, like what you think, what you look, what you read, things that I can know so I can be part of it. If you have any advice of how you started to be goth it would be amazing

I've been looking around on the internet to find more lifestyle articles and culture related things, but all I seem to get is fashion & music. While I am not complaining, I am pretty sure there is more out there. Where do you guys go to get your news? And what are you liking to read about?

I'm new to the goth scene, and I'm more into darkwave (and a little aggrotech) than some other gothic genres. Am I still goth?

I’ve always been obsessed/intrigued/interested by goth music and fashion but never knew when I’d actually get into it. But now I am! Now that I am, I want to now what are the best brands to buy clothes from? And what are some bands to listen to? (Currently listening to inkubus sukkubus, acid bath, and Bauhaus) Im also on the east coast of the us so I’d need help finding clothes that I’d be able to wear in the cold and not freeze my ass off

I'd be curious if other countries face a similar decline in numbers on this front as Germany. Over the past one or two decades, many Goth Clubs have closed and respective events are exceeding rare – at least compared to how it used to be in the early 2000s. I've recently moved to Leipzig, which used to be the "Black Capital of Germany" and even here, there are some events every other week – which is still a lot more than in southern Germany, where I used to live before. And even in Leipzig, the last "pure" Goth Club, the "Darkflower", has closed for good in July, leaving only regular clubs with Goth themed nights.

I'm in my mid 30s now and still, whenever I visit some Goth Night in a Club, it feels like the average age drops when I enter the room. It seems like that these events are visited by the same people as 20 or 30 years ago. And outside of these events, in everyday environments, Goths seem to be as rare as black diamonds. (there never used to be "a lot" but you could encounter at least some every now and then)

So, how does it look on your country? Is there still an active Goth "community" or is it dying out as well?

I’ve seen a lot of fashion brands add bdsm elements to anything they have that is gothic “gothic dress with harness straps etc..”

Also I’ve seen a lot of people that always associate goth girls with bdsm “like when they see them they immediately assume they’re into bdsm etc..”

These are just few examples of what I’m trying to say

So… now to the real question

What is the history and link/association between goth culture and bdsm? Is bdsm inherently part of the culture? If bdsm is not, then how did all of this associations between the two start?

OK I won't lie, I had no idea this was a music based culture till 2 months ago, but now that I'm listening to the music, now I'm noticing when I dress up (even in highschool) people would call me goth, what if I dressed like this and never listened to the music like I did in high-school, would that be an insult to the goth culture, do u think there should be an education system of goth culture vs stereotyping cuse u wear all black and spiked collars?

I recently made a video on James O'Barr graphic novel The Crow. I also analyze the 1994 Crow film starring the late Brandon Lee. An interesting fact I learned while researching the crow was what a huge influence the film had on goth culture. Especially for the clothing and music. If you guys want to check the video out here you go. https://youtu.be/Dn956UY7DOM