Teen Gothic

Any tips for a first timer?

It wasn't a phase, mom! I was fifteen then. Over three decades later, here I still am. Yes, I did take an extended break from goth in my university years. I still wore black, but I stopped listening to the music. For the longest time, the music conjured up PTSD-related memories due to a catastrophic falling-out with an eldergoth friend.

Good old Christian Mom, when I was a babybat: "What are you doing with those candles and incense?" Before you guess that she asked me about devil worship—you're absolutely right! She did ask about devil worship!

I had to do a lot of explaining about the subculture. To my family, to the friends I'd alienated, to the public.

I don't look as extreme now, but I've got this subculture in my DNA. There's so much new music. I'm floored by the amount. I've set a personal goal to listen to ten albums per day, indefinitely, but at least for a year. I'm single and I'm studying online, so I can afford to.

Did your family assume that goth was going to be a phase for you? How did people react in your babybat days?

Been going down a pipeline for this year pretty much. Started with doom metal and slowly I have been going more for that gothic vibe slowly but surely. Been listening to blauhaus and siouxie and the banshees and some cold wave as well. Keep going down further and further down the rabbit hole because of how much I love a band from the 90s that has a gothic sound to them. Which has led me into some gothic rock and cold wave wildly enough. Any any other bands and artists that you recommend that in that same vein and vibe of music. I do like some experimental stuff as well so hit me up with some obscure music as well. .

Hey, I don't know why but I felt like I should post this here. I'm trying really hard not to lose my mind. I'm planning to leave my boyfriend. I've been seeing him for almost a year and things aren't going so well. He's turned abusive. I'm stuck in a town 2 hours away from my hometown with no way to get back.

I'm disabled and can no longer drive. He's taking advantage of that. He treats me like a paycheck and meal ticket. I've broken up with him several times but he refuses to accept it. He's even said that I don't know what is best for me. He said that breaking up isn't what I really want and has said that he doesn't care what I want, I'm not allowed to leave him.

I'm depressed and I just want to go home. I have somewhere to stay in my hometown but no way to get there. I've called the domestic violence shelter here and they will not help me because I'm wanting to leave the county. I just don't know what to do anymore. I never consented to moving here. We used to come down on the weekends to visit friends. In February, he waited until we got here to tell me that we weren't going back.

He refuses to accept reality. He thinks I'm going to marry him and everything will be fine. I don't want to marry him. In fact, I just want to be single from now on. The only thing that keeps keeps me sane is dressing up and listening to Bauhaus and Peter Murphy. I also like Killing Joke, Sisters of Mercy and The Mission UK among others. I just want to talk to you, my people. I'm not asking for money, I just need support. Thank you for reading.

hey so i’ll be going to sisters of mercy this saturday i’m pretty nervous because this is my first time i’m going to a concert alone since no one i know irl is into goth music it’s not a really large venue but i still feel a bit nervous any advice for this situation will be well appreciated 🙂

I am writing a paper on Siouxsie and I wanted to show her influence on other goth musicians – musically, lyrically and visually. I stumbled across an interview in which Steve Severin said that they always write about the darker side of human psyche, obsession, going mad and I would like to show an example that is by a different goth band (preferably from mid 80s onward) to show some similarities but can't think of anything at the moment. Any help will be appreciated.

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So I’ve never really dressed goth except like in highschool but I’ve always enjoyed the music and aesthetic. Anyway I’ve always wanted to go to a goth club just for the experience and music. Would I be welcomed in, or even allowed in since I’m not dressed that way? I know it’s probably a dumbass question but I was just curious.